Allentown Victory · Couple

Kwynn & Arlena

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Your wedding guide

Pre-filled story fields from your session with Pastor Matthew, plus the full Six Intentional Conversations digital workbook. Fill sessions together (and individually where marked). Saves stay on this device and sync to Pastor Matthew’s view.

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How we met / our story

Proposal story

People to honor

Must include / notes

Rehearsal

Shared hopes & notes

Use the tabs above for Sessions 1–6 and the ceremony planning packet. Pastor Matthew can see your workbook answers; he keeps separate private notes you never see.

Our information

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Bride's legal name Bride's preferred name Groom's legal name Groom's preferred name Wedding date Venue Minister Coordinator

Our conversation commitments

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We will tell the truth and will not punish honesty. We will listen to understand before defending ourselves. We will discuss one issue at a time and avoid insults, threats, intimidation, and contempt. Either person may request a pause; we will name a safe time to resume. We will not use Scripture, prayer, sex, money, silence, family, or the wedding date to control each other. We will ask for help early when we are stuck. Bride initials Groom initials

SESSION 1 — Our Story, Meaning & Expectations

Tell the truth about why you are choosing each other, what marriage means, what you expect, and what you hope God will form through your life together.

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Conversation date Next counseling meeting

Complete individually before talking

The moment I began to see you as a possible spouse was…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

The quality I most admire in you is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

The gift your personality brings to our relationship is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

Marriage means that I am promising to…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

The part of married life I am most excited about is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

The expectation I am most afraid may not be met is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

The most important disagreement we need to keep working on is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

Ten years from now, I hope our ordinary life includes…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

I believe God may use our marriage to…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

Our marriage vision (With God's help, our marriage will be…) Approved public story or detail Private—do not use publicly Three strengths we want to protect Three areas we want to grow

Bring this summary to the next meeting

One agreement we made One issue still unresolved One action we will take One question for our minister/counselor

SESSION 2 — Communication, Love & Conflict

Learn how each of you receives care, how stress changes your communication, and how you will pause, repair, forgive, and solve problems without harm.

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Conversation date Next counseling meeting

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I feel most heard when…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

I feel rejected or alone when…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

The best way to encourage me is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

When I am upset, my first instinct is…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

A sincere apology sounds or looks like…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

After conflict, I feel connected again when…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

Love-language snapshot (rank 1–5)

Category	Bride rank	Bride action	Groom rank	Groom action
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Thoughtful gifts
Acts of service
Welcomed physical touch

Behaviors that are never acceptable Our time-out phrase Maximum pause before we reconnect Who restarts the conversation Our best setting for difficult talks People we may contact for wise help

Bring this summary to the next meeting

One agreement we made One issue still unresolved One action we will take One question for our minister/counselor

SESSION 3 — Family, Roles, Home & Time

Honor what is good from your families, leave harmful patterns behind, build clear in-law boundaries, and create realistic agreements for home, work, friendship, rest, and existing children.

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Conversation date Next counseling meeting

Family patterns

	Bring forward	Leave behind	Create together
Bride
Groom

Holidays and in-laws

Occasion	Current expectations	Our first-year plan
Thanksgiving
Christmas / major faith holiday
Birthdays / anniversaries
Vacations
Other traditions

Household responsibility summit

Choose Lead / Shared / Support / Outsource.

Responsibility	Lead	Support / backup	Review date
Cooking / meal planning
Dishes / kitchen
Cleaning / laundry
Shopping / supplies
Bills / paperwork
Repairs / yard / vehicles
Appointments / calendar
Children / caregiving
Pets
Hospitality / church commitments

Our sample week

Day	Work / fixed	Together / family	Alone / friends / rest
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
Sunday

Boundary we will use if family pressure arises

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One agreement we made One issue still unresolved One action we will take One question for our minister/counselor

SESSION 4 — Money, Work, Home & Future

Replace financial assumptions with full disclosure and a practical first-year system for accounts, bills, spending, debt, saving, work, housing, and long-term goals.

PRIVATE FINANCIAL WORK — Complete together. You may bring only your summary and concerns to the minister unless you both choose to share the details.

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Financial disclosure snapshot

Category	Bride	Groom
Net monthly income
Cash / savings
Retirement / investments
Credit-card debt
Student / personal loans
Vehicle / housing debt
Taxes / fines / judgments
Child support / alimony
Other recurring obligations
Credit concerns / bankruptcy
Insurance coverage

Starter monthly plan

Category	Planned amount	Notes / owner
Housing
Utilities / phones
Food / household
Transportation
Debt payments
Insurance / medical
Giving
Savings / retirement
Children / caregiving
Personal spending
Entertainment / travel
Other

Goals and future

Time frame	Goal	First step	Review date
First 90 days
One year
Five years
Ten years

Account structure Who pays and monitors bills Budget review day Spending amount that requires discussion Individual discretionary amount Debt-reduction priority Emergency-fund target Giving plan Retirement / insurance next step Where documents and passwords are stored safely Conditions under which we would consider moving or changing careers

Bring this summary to the next meeting

One agreement we made One issue still unresolved One action we will take One question for our minister/counselor

SESSION 5 — Faith, Intimacy, Fidelity & Family

Name the spiritual center of your home and form respectful agreements about church, intimacy, willing consent, health, faithfulness, children, and parenting.

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Fidelity and digital boundaries

Area	Our agreement
Former partners
Coworkers / travel
Private messages / disappearing apps
Pornography / sexual content
Emotional confidants
Passwords / device privacy
What we will do if attraction develops

What following Jesus means to us Church participation we desire Prayer and Scripture rhythm Giving and service Sabbath / rest How we will respond when one person struggles spiritually Faith formation for present or future children

Affection and romance that help me feel connected

Bride

Groom

What helps sexual conversation feel safe How we will honor a no or a pause How we will handle differences in desire Health information or care we still need to address Sexual behaviors or media we agree are outside our covenant When we would seek medical or counseling help Desire for children / timing / number If conception is difficult Contraception / fertility treatment convictions Fostering / adoption convictions Pregnancy, miscarriage, and abortion convictions Parenting values we share Discipline that is acceptable / never acceptable Education and church formation Paid work / caregiving after children Existing children and co-parenting boundaries

Bring this summary to the next meeting

One agreement we made One issue still unresolved One action we will take One question for our minister/counselor

SESSION 6 — Covenant, Final Readiness & Ceremony

Bring your agreements into one marriage rule of life, name anything unresolved, confirm that both are choosing freely, and give the minister every decision needed for the wedding service.

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I am choosing this marriage freely because…

Bride (Arlena)

Groom (Kwynn)

Our Marriage Rule of Life

Area	Our shared practice (We will…)
Faith
Friendship / date time
Communication
Conflict / repair
Money
Family boundaries
Intimacy / faithfulness
Service / mission
Rest / health
Asking for help

Our greatest strength Our most important growth area The issue we still need to resolve The help we are willing to seek People who will support our marriage A reason postponement would be wise The minister may share this story or detail The minister may describe these qualities in us Please do not mention Scripture or central truth we prefer Bride signature / date Groom signature / date

Wedding Ceremony Planning Packet

Complete together and give the final copy to your minister by the deadline they set.

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Wedding date / start time Venue / address Rehearsal date / time Coordinator / phone Day-of contact / phone Guest count Marriage-license issuing authority Who brings the license Required witnesses Who returns/files the license Bride's spoken name / pronunciation Groom's spoken name / pronunciation Bride's parents / stepparents Groom's parents / stepparents Escorts and exact roles Children and desired roles Deceased / absent loved ones and desired mention Family sensitivities the minister should know Exact giving-away or family-blessing wording requested Wedding colors Requested minister attire Microphone type / sound contact Kneeling bench Communion or unity-element setup owner Photographer / video restrictions Unplugged ceremony announcement Accessibility needs Outdoor weather plan Questions or special requests Our selected passage(s) and translation What we want to remember when marriage feels easy What we want to remember when marriage feels hard People we will call before a problem becomes a crisis

Entrance and giving / blessing

Bride enters with father Bride enters with mother Bride enters with both parents Bride enters with another escort Bride walks alone Couple enters together

Wedding party

Role	Count / names / order	Age or special instructions
Bridesmaids / attendants
Groomsmen / attendants
Honor attendants
Flower child
Ring bearer
Readers / musicians

Choose ceremony elements

Call to worship / welcome Call to worship / welcome — details Opening prayer Opening prayer — details Scripture (reference / translation / reader) Wedding charge Wedding charge — details Declaration of intent Declaration of intent — details Vows Vows — details Rings Rings — details Family vows Family vows — details Unity element Unity element — details Couple repeats prayer Couple repeats prayer — details Closing prayer / blessing Closing prayer / blessing — details Presentation wording

Music and cues

Moment	Selection	Live / recorded	Cue person
Prelude
Wedding party
Bride / couple entrance
Unity element
Recessional

Quick Ceremony Order

Processional Call to worship / welcome Giving away / family blessing Opening prayer Scripture reading(s) Wedding charge Declaration of intent / pledge Vows Rings Family vows / blessing Communion / unity element / repeated prayer Closing prayer / blessing Pronouncement Kiss Presentation Recessional

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